Hazel's Words on Marriage & Separation

I felt inspired to give someone having marriage troubles on a forum a child’s point of view. So here is my five year old daughter’s point of view from events past. All things in quotes are Hazel’s words. Things in [] are added for clarity. I must also add that she was wondering why I was asking her these things so I told her that someone was having similar marriage troubles as her Daddy and I had and that it may help them to have a child’s point of view on it (She is familiar with the idea of communication using the internet.). Then she was more willing to put things into words.

How did it feel when Daddy and I were having problems before we separated?
“You said I love you but no hugs, no love, no kissing, weren’t showing you were loving.”

How did that make you feel?
“Crying and being sad sad sad sad sad sad sad. Because it wasn’t the right thing to do, not giving loves, not following the Son of God, and God doesn’t like it.”

How did it feel when we separated, when we stopped living together?
“Happy. Because you were going to try to fix it. Because it was the right thing to do so we can change it. I missed him [Daddy].”

How do you think it would have felt if Daddy and I never moved back in together?
With a big frowny face “Sadness.”

How did it feel when you saw Daddy and I getting closer together, showing more love?
With a big smile “Happy.”

How do you feel now that we’re all living together again?
“Happy!”

Why did you want us to work it out and live together again?
“So we can see him forever, because we love him [Daddy].”

I noticed the we in all that so I asked her about it.

Did you think that part of why we separated was your fault?
She shakes her head no. “No.” (This means I did my job on that one.)

Did you think that you could help fix it?
“No.” Pause. “Both of you would.”

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